Knowing our kids better!
Kids are the most innocent and transparent beings on earth! They are alien with the knowledge of duplicating their emotions for everyone or at any specific time. But still, these kids, especially those within the age group of 5 to 15 years can control or hide more than 90% of their feelings from their parents or teachers.
These kids are mostly those who are suffering from a certain type of emotional or physical stress or have a peer pressure that’s too dominating. We as parents, often get confused or are at a total loss when it comes to guessing out these signs and more often end up with kids those are too lonely or too adamant during their teens.
Here are certain signs which may help each of the parent to know when their little children get grown up so much emotionally that they begin to manipulate their emotions and behaviour and which is not at all normal at such a tender age and may lead to mandate counselling sessions in future.
Signs to get aware!
Most of the children start feeling insecure when they’re expecting a sibling in their house or immediately after the entry of a new sibling in their life. This reason is the most prominent one in any such kid’s life. Now, you may be thinking how can you guess if the behavioural pattern of the kid has changed? So, let me tell you it’s not quite that easy because these kids, especially after the birth of the new child, tend to get quite reserved nature and acquire solace in loneliness.They may be exact normal while talking or behaving but, would usually stare from one parent to another when the new kids make some new gesture which is a reason of pleasure for his parents. They usually do more than excellent in studies stop sharing their daily tales with parents and even hiding some major incidents of their life sometimes. The one major symptom of this neglecting us bedwetting. This entirely normal kid will start bedwetting at nights at a consistent base mostly because he feels neglected or avoided.
Tackle is wisely!
Such type of kids needs grooming up. Let them know and understand slowly from the pronate period itself that there’s someone coming in his life who would be just like him and will share his parents and most importantly love him like no one else does. Let him be a leader and tell him that your younger sibling would be dependent on you.Let him take part in the preparations of the baby and prepare a nice hub for his baby friend coming. After the birth, there is 70% chance that the kid would be prepared for the smaller version, but still would be in a chaos if the attention is divided.
Be their company!
So, make sure you spent more than quarter of your time and energy on the elder one and less than a quarter on the younger one.Because the younger is too small to take notice of it and the elder needs it desperately.
The second type is the one where kids are prone to notice a lot of aggressive fights and quarrels at home and get scared or silent because of it. The majority of such cases the children adapt either one of the parent’s behaviour. He becomes very aggressive or simply dumb. The major symptoms show when these kids face a major decline in their appetite and spent lesser time at home or interact very less with the family members. Such kids enjoy others children’s company and their house patterns and often start comparing and complaining about it. Their academics may fall rapidly and they tend to make friends with books or pads as nowadays or even get more than close to their pets. There are 90% chances that as adults such kid’s face an extreme hatred about their families.
Deal with patience!
Dealing with such kids can be done by simply quitting the quarrels or diverting them when their not in front and create a pleasant environment at home. If you are a single parent or moving out of marriage simply talk to them. They are kids but can surely notice and understand the situations better than us if we try to explain them calmly. Try being soft on them when they imitate those aggressive behavioural patterns and it’s better if such kids are made busy in some vigorous physical activities.
The insecure ones!
Third ones are those kids who have been suffering some kind of physical or emotional exploitation within or out of the house. These types are very sensitive ones. They are sometimes so submerged in insecurity feelings that they tend to behave like a totally different person of what they actually are. They tend to either become too quiet or dull or too confident and start bullying everyone else than who is exploiting them. Their academics may either decrease rapidly or increase too rapidly. Depends on what behavioural patterns they have opted for. These kids often would stop abruptly while chatting with you and then behave as if nothing happened. They are mostly seen talking to mirror or their images or unhuman things a lot and mostly retreat to painting as a medium to express their feelings in such a way that no one understands
but they have let out themselves.
Trickiest to understand!
These kids are trickiest to understand & as the results of the exploitation are totally& opposite. But, as parents, I am sure you will understand what category they may be in. Let them take it out. Speak a lot with them. Be a friend to them. Ask them to take part in family matters and try to boost their confidence in a pleasant way. After these, there are 80% chances that the kid will speak out his heart and you will find a way out of it.
The bullied kids!
And the fourth ones are those kids with a peer pressure that is so dominating either physically or emotionally that they leave your kid into remaking their personality in a totally new way that’s either matching their demands or them in any way. These kids start lying in their homes very frequently and in such an innocent way that’s difficult to catch. Their friends teach them all. Their academics fall rapidly and they may be a major reason for other’s uncomfortable with loads of complaints raining on parents. Studies say 70% of the kids smoke or start drugs due to extensive peer pressure or imitation. They ask for a lot of money at home lying with an impressive fluency and are mostly seen away or careless of the family and home. They tend to become selfish and adamant in a period of time.
Just shower love and attention!
These kids need love and fear at the same time. Love them and show them your love can make them a pleasant person once again. And scare them a little so that they may at least think twice before doing something unpleasant in future. Try mixing them up more in family matters.
So, these are the certain actions and reactions that may help you build a secure and happy relationship with your kid and make way for a happy adult in future. Remember, kids, are a soft clay dough gifted to us. Mould them properly before they get moulded with hard outside air and hit us ahead in time.